Soulmates - Part 1
One of the ways to validate a past life experience is to check if there have been cases of two different individuals having recalled the same events from the same past life time where they were both associated. This is a very interesting and valid challenge to the concept of past life. Such cases prove to be indisputable evidence for the existence of past life and reincarnation of the soul. Two different individuals cannot tell the same story if one of them has made it up. Dr. Brian Weiss has covered this topic in detail in his book “Only love is real”, where two strangers who have been lovers in earlier life recollect events of their time together and are brought together again in this life through his PLRT sessions of Dr. Weiss. I had somewhat similar experience with two of my clients who are husband and wife in this life. During their PLRT sessions, both of them had recalled another lifetime where both were again husband and wife. They had lot of events in common to narrate. This post is about the PLRT session of the wife.
Before reading this post, I suggest that you read
the post on “Migraine Headaches”, published on 26th March,
2019. The migraine post is about Aditya (name changed) who suffered from severe migraine headaches and the present one is about his
wife, Disha (name changed).
Aditya had been through a PLRT
session early this year and couple of weeks later his wife, Disha, requested for her appointment.
She mentioned that she had some serious skin allergy and needed help. I did not quite register the medical name for
the allergy. I had few other people
lined up and wanted to complete those before I could take them up. She followed up again and I suggested she
meditate before I can schedule a session for her.
A few weeks later the 'lockdown' was announced in
India, thanks to the Covid-19. As some of the lockdown
restrictions were relaxed in early May, Disha, called again to seek an
appointment. I checked if she had meditated
and she had not. I said, unless she
meditates I will not schedule the session for her.
Few days later, she messaged again requesting
for a session as the pain was becoming unbearable. She said she has been meditating regularly. During the lockdown, we had to shut my office and there was no provision to work from
home. My partners and I were waiting for the lockdown to open our office. The lockdown restrictions being eased, brought my focus back on work. My partners and I had few bank branch audits to finish and I had
no time to conduct a session. But, considering that the medicines were not helping much, I was also keen to see if PLRT could help Disha. I told her that the only day I had to spare was a Sunday and we agreed to have the session on the following Sunday.
Aditya, Disha and her young 3 year old son
arrived for the session on the appointed day.
Disha is a young lady in her early thirties. She was born sometime around middle of
1988. She was organised and had made
notes on the issues she wanted to be addressed through PLRT. As
I briefed her about the session and how it works, she confidently said that she
has been through all the posts on my blog and was aware of how we go about.
For a therapist, it is important to know about the client before
conducting the regression, as it helps to identify the ‘hooks’ to be used
during the session and also in the analysis post the session. This step of hearing from the client is referred to as history taking.
Disha and Aditya were married during the last month of 2011. She was excited about her first pregnancy but during the second month, she suffered a miscarriage. She was thoroughly depressed about the loss and later in December 2015, she was diagnosed with Urticaria. The allergic effects disappeared during her second pregnancy and everything was fine till her son was born in early 2017. About 15 days from the birth of her son, the allergy started again and it became very severe. She had been under treatment till May 2018 and the allergy reduced after the therapy. It started again after she got herself a job in December 2019. She thought that the allergy may be because of the centralised air conditioning in the office. She was working at the time when the first allergic reactions appeared and it came back now when she got back to work. The pain and burning is very severe and affects her entire body, including her tongue. It is so severe that it deprives her of good sleep.
‘Urticaria’ – the term was Greek and Latin to
me. Medical terms for the diseases are
quite difficult for me to grasp and I did a quick Google search on this. As per "webmd.com", “Urticaria, also known as
hives, is an outbreak of swollen, pale red bumps or plaques (wheals) on the
skin that appear suddenly -- either as a result of the body's reaction to
certain allergens, or for unknown reasons.
Hives usually cause itching, but may also burn or sting. They can appear
anywhere on the body, including the face, lips, tongue, throat, or ears. Hives
vary in size (from a pencil eraser to a dinner plate), and may join together to
form larger areas known as plaques. They can last for hours, or up to one day before
fading.” As per the website, there is no known cure, but medicines and lifestyle changes can help feel better.
We agreed on the below themes to be explored during the session in the order of priority.
- Urticaria – root cause and wants to get rid of this.
- Insecure about her life partner. This was even before she had met her husband. This also is one of the reasons why she feels she needs to have a job and source of income. She always wanted to be independent, because she felt her husband may leave her anytime.
- Reason for loss of first child. She still feels bad about it and started crying while talking about this. She said she was actually suffering during that short pregnancy from fever and chills. But was still keen to have that child.
After the regular briefing about PLRT, history taking and making my notes about key events in present life, I used the progressive relaxation technique to take Disha to
trance. I asked her to go to a happy
childhood memory and enquired, “What comes to your awareness?”
She said, “It is
all blank.” After few seconds she said,
“My body is burning.” It surprised me
because I had asked her to go to a happy childhood memory.
She continued, “Fire,
kind of burning.” Her breathing was
becoming fast. I guided her to breathe
deep and slow. She continued to breathe fast
and hard. I took her back to the garden,
asking her to relax and exhale the pain. But the breathing was fast and she seemed to struggle to breathe.
She said, “I
feel I am going somewhere.” She mumbled
something that was not clear. I asked
her to float above and see what was happening.
But her
breathing was hard and continued to be fast.
I asked her to witness what was happening and she once again said, “Nothing.” I asked her to be in the garden.
Below is the
script of the session. “T” is for the
therapist, i.e., me, and “D” is for Disha’s part of the conversation.
D: Feeling very
heavy.
I asked her to relax by breathing in deep and slowly.
But she
continued to breathe heavily and her mouth seemed to be going dry. As she was feeling very uncomfortable, I
asked if she wanted to come out. She
said, “Yes.” I guided her out of the
trance.
She looked very
stressed and said she felt her whole body was burning. After taking a short break, she insisted on
going back. I was not sure, if we should
continue or schedule the session for another day. Considering her insistence, I decided to
give it a try. I sent out a silent prayer again to God and the masters. I used the Elman
technique followed by progressive relaxation techniques to calm her. She appeared to be in deep trance. I again asked her to go to a happy childhood
memory and after some time got a positive response.
D: I am sitting.
T: How old are
you?
D: Very small,
few months.
T: What are you
wearing?
D: Something
like shorts…feeling happy.
T: Who is with
you?
D: No one. Just playing with few broken sticks and sand.
She could not
recognise the place, but said there was sand around. I asked her to go back to the time she was in
her mother’s womb.
D: I am
warm. Feeling protected.
“Feeling
protected” is what most people say when they experience themselves being in the
womb.
I asked her to
go back in time and space to the root cause of her skin allergy.
D: Dark, slight
burn on my body…feeling hot.
I wondered if she was burning again and wanted to take here back to another time before this incident.
T: Go back few days
to time of dinner. What do you see?
D: A table - dining
table. I see some 2-3 kids.
T: Are you one
of them?
D: May be…I feel
I am a boy…may be 5 or 6.
T: Who are the
other people around you?
D: See some
girl, little elder to me, I think.
T: What is the
girl’s name?
D: I don’t know.
T: What does the
girl call you?
D: Just smiling
and eating. We are having a happy
time. Having food. Having chapatti.
T: Is anyone
serving?
D: No.
T: Go to
significant event in that lifetime.
D: I see nothing.
T: Are you still
at the dining table?
D: Yes. Just smiling and eating our food. Having good time.
T: Do you recognise
her?
D: Maybe she is my cousin sister. I am not sure.
I asked her to
go to another happy moment in that lifetime.
D: I don’t see
anything.
T: Go back to
the dining table and then move forward to a significant event.
D: I think I am
going somewhere. I feel my soul or
something is going somewhere…just moving around.
T: See from
where it has come.
D: It has come
from somewhere…grass…field.
T: Who is there?
D: It has gone
out of the body and it is going somewhere.
T: Whose body is
that?
D: Mine…I think
I was a man.
T: Go back and
see what makes the soul leave the body.
D: I am lying
down. They are trying to burn me.
T: Go back few
hours and see what happens before the death.
D: I am going
somewhere in the field.
T: How old are you?
D: Must be 30 to
40…young only.
T: Are you
alone?
D: Yes…I look
somewhat thin, tall…wearing shirt, loose pyjama, in some field.
T: Which
country?
D: I think I am
in India only…somewhere…looks like I am a farmer…looking at my field. It is green…something long is growing. I feel very happy seeing and am
standing. I am old now. More than 30 or 40, may be 50. My hair is black and white. I look wheatish (colour of wheat)…moustache…I think, I look
like my uncle.
T: Uncle in that
life or this life?
D: This life…have
a very broad smile seeing my field.
T: Are you 50
years old?
D: Yeah, maybe
50 – 60. I am just under the tree.”
T: Go forward to
a significant event and see what is the burning that was happening?
D: I am lying
and someone is trying to burn me.
T: How old are
you?
D: I am dead.
T: Go back and
see why they are burning you.
D: I feel my
body is lying somewhere.
T: Go back
before death and see how you died.
D: Not able
to. I can only…no one is around me…they
have put me on the logs…there is no one around me…in that field…in the midst of
that field.
T: What are the
regrets you carry from that life?
D: Nothing…I was
happy.
T: What made you
visit that life?
D: I am standing
under a tree…smiling…looking at my field…very joyful, smiling face from
inside…seeing the garden and my fields…lush green field.
T: Is it the
same lifetime that you saw at the dining table when you were a boy?
D: Yeah.
She had seen a life a happy life but there was nothing more than the lush green fields that held any relevance to the skin allergy.
Later after coming out of trance she explained that she was a man who was dead and was lying on logs in the middle of own field, ready for the last rites waiting for someone to light the fire, but nobody was around to light the fire.
I suggested, “Leave the body and see where the soul goes. What is coming to your awareness?”
D: Mummy…I went
to my mom’s house.
T: To be born in
this life?
D: Yeah.
T: Go back in
time and go to that lifetime from where the skin allergy came from. What is coming to your awareness?
D: I am feeling
the heat. My stomach is burning…My heart
is burning…my chest is burning.
I was not sure
if it was the burning sensation or was she witnessing a fire.
T: Go back to
see why this is burning.
She screamed, “I
am lit.”
T: Go back and
see who has lighted you?
Her voice was
now choking and there were strong abreactions.
Worried that she may want to come out again, I suggested that her to float
above and witness.
She was crying, “I am a lady…someone has lit me.” Her voice was choking. I asked her to float above and witness. She was crying as if she was actually being
burnt.
D: I am
screaming…been put in a room (she said sobbing)...wearing bangles…green…saree.
'Saree' is the name of the robe worn by women in India.
T: How old are
you? (I tried to distract her)
D: I am
young…must be 30s…mid 30s…little dark, wheatish in colour.
T: Are you alone
in the room?
D: Yeah…I think
it is some old kitchen…food is cooked using wood…fire…logs.
T: Float above
and go back few minutes to see how this happened. How did you get into the kitchen?
D: Some lady is
pushing me…old lady…some man.
T: Who is this
man?
D: I don’t know.
T: Are the old
lady and the man pushing you?
D: Yeah.
T: Only two of
them?
D: Yeah…it is an
old house…(panting heavily and still crying)…I think there is a boy, a small
boy there who is standing in shirt, shorts…I think he is my son.
T: How old is
he?
D: He is
small…he is small…he is watching…the way they are punching me…they are pushing
me (she was crying loudly now). (After
the session, she mentioned that her son looked like 6-7 year old, but looked
more mature than his age.)
As she continued
to cry, I kept reminding her it is a past life and asked her to float above.
D: I don’t want
to go…(she was weeping and referring to being pushed into the kitchen)
I did not want
to take her back to the painful burning scene again. I asked her to go back in time and asked her
to check the relationship between her and these people pushing her.
D: I don’t
recognise him…he is dark.
T: Is he your
husband?
D: No…may be
they are my in-laws.
T: How old is
the man?
D: He is very
old…he is dark, very black with white hair, white beard.
T: Look at
yourself. How old are you?
D: Must be mid
30s.
T: Who else is with
you?
D: My
son…small…may be 5-6 years.
T: Who is this
lady?
D: Don’t know.
T: What is your
relationship with her?
D: May be they
are my in-laws.
T: How old is
she?
D: She is old.
T: Where is your
husband?
D: He is not
there.
T: Where has be
gone?
D: I don’t know.
T: Go back and
see what happened to your husband.
D: We are having
dinner…I am serving my husband…rice.
T: How old is
he?
D: He is young.
T: How old are
you?
D: I am also
young.
T: Do you have
children?
D: Son.
T: How old is
he?
D: May be 5 – 6
years…he looks like my brother…same face when he was small.
T: Look at your
husband, who does he look like?
D: Adi…he is
having moustache, wearing big glasses, he is thin, dark…I am also dark, wearing
saree, old house.
‘Adi’ - she was
referring to her husband’s name in this life.
I was wondering which life she was experiencing.
T: See what
happens to your husband. Where does he
go?
D: He is going
to work.
T: I want you to
see where he is when you are being burnt.
Where is he?
D: He is not
there.
T: Where is he? Go back and see what happened to him.
D: Giant
wheel…my son went…I am standing down…my husband is on the giant wheel…they are
saying ‘hi’…giant wheel is going fast, fast.
I am getting scared, I am worried about them. He fell down.
‘Giant wheel’
rang a bell. It was in a similar
accident that her husband Adi had died in an earlier life. I wondered if Disha too was witnessing the
same life time.
T: Who fell down?
D: Giant wheel
D: Adi…Adi
I wondered, as
to why she was calling out her husband’s name in the present life. Was she being influenced by his past life
regression experience. In order to rule
this out, I asked, “Is that his name in that life? What do you call him?”
D: I am not
calling him.
She did not
answer that. In order to keep the flow,
I asked, “What happened to him?”
D: He fell
down. (She was weeping now).
T: What happened
to your son?
D: He is fine…I
am holding him…running (she was panting)
T: Running where?
D: I don’t
know. (Breathing became heavy and she
was weeping). I see ambulance…I am
scared…I am going, going with him…operation theatre…hospital…doctor.
T: What is the
doctor telling you?
D: He is not
there…left us and gone. (She was sobbing)…please…Adiiiiii.
T: Go forward
and see what happens to you and your son.
D: Burning.
She went to the
time she was set on fire. I had to bring
her back in time to see what happened to her and her son after the husband’s
death.
T: Go back and
see what happens to you and your son after your husband’s death.
D: We are
happy…we both are there at the house…me and my son…not really happy but
accepting.
T: What do you
do for a living?
D: Don’t know.
She should have
answered this easily if she was being influenced from hearing Aditya’s past
life experience. But, she did not.
T: How do you
run your house? What work do you do?
D: I am rolling
something.
Again, this was
not clear. I remembered Aditya telling
me (during his session) that his wife made and sold papad for a living after his death. Papad is the Indian term for ‘Poppadom’.
T: What is this
– chapatti, papad?
D: It is small…I
sell them. (She was referring to papad)
T: Is this the
same house in which you lived with your husband?
D: Yes.
T: From where
your in-laws come?
D: They just
came in…I don’t like them…I don’t know why…they are just pushing me, hitting
me…pushing me into that room…just burnt me…my son is witnessing.
T: What is
making them do this?
D: They did not
like me at all…I don’t know why.
T: Go back and
see how you and your husband got married.
D: Burning in my
stomach.
D: We are
married…it is our wedding day…I think I am Tamil…something is tied over our
forehead…it is made of thermocol…(I am wearing) white saree, (he is wearing) white shirt, white dhoti.
T: Is it been
blessed by both your parents?
D: Hmm.
T: Are they
there?
D: Don’t
know. I don’t see them. It is our wedding…choultry…wedding is taking
place.
'Choultry' refers to large halls in India where usually weddings are held.
T: Are his
parents around – the ones who pushed you?
D: Yeah.
T: What happens
after your wedding?
D: That lady is
wearing glasses, big glasses…she is thin…ok.
T: See if you
recognise her.
D: She looks Tamilian…she is little fair, but the father is completely black.
T: Are you happy
about your wedding?
D: Hmm.
T: What happens
after the wedding – do you guys change house, move out?
D: I think we
came out with our son…we were not happy there.
T: Where did you
go?
D: We have moved
to this house.
T: Is it the
same house where you were burnt?
D: Yeah…it was
the same house where I was burnt…it is a green, it is an old house…but we were
happy…the three of us…spent very nice time.
T: Is it the
same place? Do your in-laws stay with
you?
D: No…they are
not there…they are somewhere far…not this.
T: Do you know
the name of the place you are settled in?
D: I don’t know.
T: What is your
name? What do they call you?
D: No one is
calling me.
T: See what your
husband calls you?
D: Rani? (She sounded as if she was asking me)
T: See what your
parents called you?
D: Rani.
T: What do you
call your husband? What do his friends
call him?
D: Balu.
This is the name
that Aditya had mentioned during his session.
Intentionally, decided to reconfirm the name by asking her a similar
sounding name.
T: Banu?
D: Balu.
T: Do you know his
full name?
D: Balachander.
It was now
confirmed that they Aditya and Disha were witnessing the same life time. I then asked her to go to the time of death,
when the soul was leaving the body. I asked
her about the emotions she was going through.
D: I am not
liking my son witnessing me being burnt…no one is there to take care of my son…Adi
is not there.
I interrupted as
she was calling out her husband’s name in the present life.
T: You mean
Balu?
D: Hmm…I am not
there…what will happen to my son…don’t want to leave him with my in-laws…they
somewhere hold me responsible for their son’s death…I am no way responsible for
his death, I have not done anything to him, I loved him a lot, I miss him a
lot. With great difficulty I was leading
life with my son. They just came to my
house, started abusing me, cursing me, hitting me, pushing. Son is standing and watching. I don’t want my son to watch this. They will do something to my son also.
T: What are they
doing to your son?
D: I don’t
know. They are not doing anything. Now, they are just hitting me. I don’t want them to do anything to my
son…Raja…Raja.
T: What is his
name?
D: Raja.
T: Is your son’s
name Raja?
D: Hmm…must
me. I am telling him to go, don’t see,
don’t see me like this, you don’t deserve this life to see this, I am sorry, I
am not able to take care of you, sorry (Crying).
T: What are they
doing? Do you stay back to see what they
do to your son?
There was no
response but a long pause.
T: Are you
floating?
D: Hmm.
T: What are the
lessons from that life?
D: Nothing
much…I wanted to take care of my son.
T: Go forward
and see who takes care of him. What
happens to him?
D: I can still see
him standing and watching me.
T: Is he crying?
D: He is
shocked, he is very small. He doesn’t
know what is happening.
T: See what
happens to him.
There was a
pause again.
T: Do you
recognise him in this life?
D: Same as my
brother. There is no difference.
T: What are your
feelings towards your in-laws who burnt you?
D: Without my
mistake, they have done this.
T: Have you
forgiven them?
D: God is there
to take care of them, I don’t have to do anything. God will take care of their sins. It was not my fault, I was misunderstood.
T: Is the
burning the reason for your skin allergy.
D: May be.
T: What must you
do to get rid of this?
D: Just leave
it.
T: Leave what?
D: Forget the
things that have happened for good.
T: How will you
leave it? Are you ready to leave it?
D: Yes.
T: Ok, just burn
these away. You do not need to carry
forward these.
I waited for
some time before asking, “Have you left them behind?”
D: Hmm.
T: Is there any
forgiveness that you want to do for your in-laws?
D: I have
forgiven them. I have left it up to God.
T: Visit them
again and forgive them.
I again waited
before asking, “Have you forgiven them?”
D: I am no one
to forgive them, I am just a human being.
It is ok.
T: Do you feel
guilty of not having taken care of your son?
D: Yes.
T: Would you
want to forgive yourself?
D: Yes.
T: Go forward
and forgive yourself.
T: Want to ask
forgiveness from your son?
D: Hmm…He hugged
me and kissed me. He said ‘it is ok
mama’.
I let her float
above and check with the white light if this was lifetime was the reason for
the skin allergy. She replied with a ‘yes’. I asked her to check if this life is also the
reason for the insecurity and she again said, ‘yes.’
I let her relax
and emerge as she said her whole body was not aching. She experienced some pain in her back, which
was similar to what she had experienced about 10 years ago.
We took a lunch break and after some time got back to connecting the dots. This is the most interesting part. Disha said she had very clear visuals. She could see people, place and things very clearly. This was evident from the detailed descriptions she gave about the people. The first time the skin allergy occurred was few months after her miscarriage. She was very disturbed after this. She was fine when she was pregnant for the second time. But, within 10 to 15 days of the birth of her child, the allergy manifested again. After the delivery of the child, he had to be admitted back within a week for jaundice. Though this is very common in new born children in India, the hospital scene of her new born son with a dark cloth on the eyes lying naked under the light for phototherapy had disturbed her. Recently, in December 2019, she had got her job and started working again. She had to leave her son at day care and was again very disturbed and worried if they were taking good care of him. Before the session, she said that she felt the air conditioned offices were the reason for the skin allergy. But after the session, the real reason was revealing itself. The emotion she experienced being away from the son was the culprit. It is probably this emotion that triggered the allergy.
The session also
had given her clarity regarding the reason for her having the fear of losing
her husband. She had lost him early in that
life and this must be the reason for the fear and insecurity of losing her husband.
Before the
session, she had also mentioned that she always wanted to be ‘independent’. Though her husband was in a good job, paid
well and the extended family was well to do, she still wanted to have a job and
have a source of income. She had said
this feeling was there even before she married. The need for being
financially independent also seemed to come from this past life where she said
she had found it difficult to take care of herself and her son, after her
husband’s death.
Since, both Aditya and Disha had experienced the same past life, I wanted to see if some of
the descriptions match. But,
unfortunately during Aditya’s session he had said that the visuals were not
clear to him. He was not a visual person whereas Disha was visual. Disha said that during the session, she felt she must have died within 2 years of Balu’s death. Balu had died in 1980 and Aditya was born in 1982. Disha must have died in 1981 or 1982, shortly after his death in 1980. Disha was born in 1988. The critics may still say that Disha being
aware about Aditya’s past life must have been influenced by it and built on his session. I can only say here that her tears were real
when she witnessed Balu die and she being burnt. The emotions were real. The real proof will be in the
healing. In my experience, the skin related issues take some time to heal.
Disha, Aditya
and their son left with a smile after a long day.
I wondered what was the relevance of the life of the farmer she had first witnessed. She had seen lying dead waiting to be burnt. Was it the masters giving her a message that it is the body that burns and not the soul and were they preparing her to see and handle the past life where she was burnt to death? We don’t know at this point of time, but may be more sessions in the future will reveal this.
She said there were no lessons that she learnt from that life. May be the intense emotions did not allow her to see through the lessons. The following day, she reflected on the session and told me that she was young and strong in that life and her in-laws who pushed her into the kitchen and set her on fire were old and not that strong. She could have fought her in-laws and run out of the house, which she did not. This way she would have saved herself and her son. May be this could be one of the lessons for her, to stand up against the injustice or face the consequences of the injustice.
But, this is a beautiful love story where both the loving husband and wife have come together again in this life. The soul-mates have been united by destiny. I am sure the healing has started for Disha and she would be fine in few months. She has to realise that she cannot be there to take of her son always and there is the Supreme one to take care of him. She has to let go of the emotions relating to her son and she would be fine. We all have our own destiny and plan. We need to focus on our karmas and let go of the emotions. Emotions come from desires and as Gautam Buddha has said "Desire is the cause for suffering". We need to take care of our desires.
Disha may need another session to see if there was a pattern in her losing her husband
early in life and being left to fend for herself. And we also need to get to the root cause as
to why she had to have such a cruel death in that life. What was the karmic account that needs to be
settled?
The next morning I received a message from Disha stating that she now strongly feels that her brother in this life was her son. Her brother also complaints of skin rashes and burning sensation when he goes out in the hot Sun. Was Rani’s son also burnt after her death by the in-laws and is that causing the issue for him in this life or is it a rare case of urticaria that is hereditary? We don’t know at this point.
I am sure there is some file in some corner of a police station in Madras (Chennai) city, with the noting of accidental death of Balu and brutal death of Rani.
Continue reading in "Soulmates - Part 2".
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Wow amazing these karmic connections are. Read about soulmates in numerology
ReplyDeleteSeen them in movies and heard few saying but without concrete proof but this is the first time ever iam reading one with strong base please share the future PLRT session if you continue withof this couple .
Very very interesting
Thanks for sharing
Geetha